Sometimes it feels like forgiving others is overrated. I mean, why should we?
~ There are people in this world that are downright mean-spirited. They spew tangling words carelessly.
~ Others choose to not recognize our accomplishments. Their silence says, “You’re not worth celebrating”… and it hurts.
~ Some refuse to change their unkind behavior — actions that ding our self-worth over and over and over again.
While some of these tangle-makers apologize and ask you to forgive them, all too often they don’t really change. And at some point, you vow to never forgive them again. It just feels safer that way. Or maybe they never apologize, and so you justify the unforgiveness held deep in your heart.
It’s so tricky. And so messy.
Without a doubt, living an offended life is easy. And we end up adopting a victim-mentality, which bleeds dysfunction into every area of our life.
But the truth is… clinging to unforgiveness hurts you the most. Why?
… because it hardens your heart, hindering your ability to love.
… it preoccupies your thoughts with anger, bitterness and revenge.
… and it give the Enemy a stronghold in your life.
So when we find ourselves struggling to forgive, it’s usually because we’re believing one of these 3 lies.