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Hi, I’m Carey -- a speaker, author, and life coach honest about my life and faith, stumbles, fumbles, and all.

My ministry focuses on helping women untangle their self-worth from the world and secure it in Jesus. And when we do, we’re free to live authentic lives… not perfect ones.

Why we play it safe with our heart… and the reason we shouldn’t

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For most of my life, I’ve had a “one-strike-and-your-out” policy in relationships.

I had been hurt so many times – and didn’t want to feel that kind of pain again – so I built a thick wall of protection around my heart. I became hyper-vigilant, standing guard over my deeply tangled self-worth with ferocity.

~ And when someone got too close.

~ When I struggled to trust motives.

~ When something didn’t feel right.

~ When my love wasn’t matched.

~ When someone wanted more than felt safe.

~ When it seemed I’d shared too much.

~ When I began to question loyalty.

~ When trusting felt too risky.

~ When someone said something that tightened a tangle.

… I added another layer of bricks.

No questions. No looking-back. No regrets.

Even knowing they were probably well-intentioned, it just seemed safer to walk away.

But in my effort to protect my wounded heart from another arrow, I missed out on the kind of community that God created me to have.

You see, when we don’t invest our time and heart… when we get stuck in unforgiveness… when we lump everyone into the same group as those who have hurt us… when we decide no one is trustworthy… when we’re always waiting for someone to fail us… we won’t find intimacy with others.

We won’t be known.

We won’t be seen.

We won’t truly be loved.

And that’s no way to live.

Ask God to untangle those places that are knotted up with hurtful memories.

Because you are worthy of love.

And girl, this world needs the love you have to offer.

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“Carey Scott is a fresh voice for women. Her straightforward, authentic approach to life and her willingness to share even the deepest parts of it combine beautifully with her love for the Lord. This book made me laugh and it made me cry, but most importantly it reminded me that even in the darkest times and places in life, my hope can be found in Christ.”

Jill Hart, founder of Christian Work at Home Ministries; author of Do Life Different

 

When you’re sidelined by fear…

Sidelined 2“YOU’RE LIVING IN FEAR.”

These were the words I heard after just fifteen minutes in the counselor’s office. And they hit me like a ton of bricks.

Apparently, I’d become the mom, the wife, the woman who lived her life in fear. I mean, I was paralyzed by the very thought of the future and what it might hold. My heart and mind were consumed with worry and plagued with anxiety. And while I desperately tried to hold on tight and manage everything, things just seemed to continue spiraling out of control.

Truth is… FEAR CAN BE CRIPPLING.

And when it comes to sharing our faith—it’s no different.

Fear can control our thoughts, shape our actions, and define our words. It can even prevent us from speaking at all. When we allow fear to have this kind of foothold in our life, it gives way to doubt and can mess with our spiritual soundness.

2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” These words prove that fear is a tool of the Enemy — meant to derail, discourage, and defeat us.

In the context of sharing our faith, that fear manifests itself as insecurity and looks like this:

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Are you a tangle-maker?

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The rude email. The judging stares. Being ignored with the sole intent to wound.

Back-stabbing. Gossip. And being left off the invite list on purpose.

Typed attacks on social media. Verbal attacks in public places. Emotional attacks from a broken trust.

We’ve all experienced this kind of hurt from another woman. And It tangles our self-worth because…

~ it screams, “I’m not worthy of her friendship.”

~ it shouts, “No one really likes me.”

~ it whispers, “I’m not worthy of loving.”

~ it hints, “Women aren’t safe.”

~ And it encourages you to close off your heart and never trust again.

Because you’ve experienced that kind of mean-spiritedness from another woman, and you know how easily it tangled your self-worth…

… Be careful that you’re not a tangle-maker yourself.

Encourage. Include. Support. Forgive. Apologize. And love.

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“If you feel like you’re simultaneously ‘too much’ and ‘not enough,’ Carey gets you, gives you hope, and guides you to the one and only perfect One, in whose love you are complete.”

Cheri Gregory, coauthor of The Cure for the “Perfect” Life: 12 Ways to Stop Trying Harder and Start Living Braver

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When you’ve tried it all… and nothing has worked

once you believe“Mom, I know. You keep telling me I’m valuable and that God created me on purpose, but I don’t need to hear it all the time.”

And quietly, in my mind, I whispered… “Yes, you do.”

Because at some point in her life, the world is going to send a humdinger of a message to my amazing 12-year-old that says who she is… isn’t good enough.

And her first response – because it’s normal – will be to believe it.

I did.

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